Have you ever thought about how to manipulate men? Gender relations - a very difficult thing. Of course, many of us would like, that it was all for real, no tricks and bizarre antics. However, for the most part it does not happen. The harsh realities of life are such that the trick is sometimes very useful. Well, we'll tell you how to learn how to apply it.
Manipulation of beneficial and harmful
Quite often you can hear the following words from women: "What kind of manipulation? I never let down to this! "Lady, speaking them, does not want for anyone to adapt and wants everything to be right and just. Unfortunately, in a relationship that does not happen, and very often it is left alone with their problems in communicating with the opposite sex. For example, a man "dissolved" and start drinking lots of water, get fat, lazy and rude to her, and she does not know what to do. Typically, this happens to women who have been reading too many romantic tales or whose parents raised in divorced from real life environment. Any novel - it's a little game in which you need to be able to exercise and honesty, and cunning.
You can manipulate a man in good and in bad. The second option can be seen when a woman absolutely do not care what will happen to her partner. She uses it exclusively for their own needs: not to be left alone to solve their problems around the old man's revenge - an occasion can be anything. But it absolutely does not care about him and his desires, although it may well hide behind the guise of women's seductiveness.
Such a woman is a man very cleverly manipulated. Often, she pretends to be unhappy martyr who dies, unless a "prince". Of course, every man wants to assert themselves and to feel strong and brave hero. He willingly swallows the bait and is hooked on manipulative, who knows what to do next. It is because of this way of villains, many women hesitate to use cunning in dealing with men. But things can be different.
Remember the beginning of any of their relations. You do not come to you like a man and tell him directly: "You are nice to me. Let's go out on a date right now. Then, if priglyanemsya each other, we begin to occur, we have sex, and if all goes well, in the future, get married and head of the children. " Everything happens in a different way: you smile, shoot him in the eyes of the famous film, taking seductive poses and use a variety of other tricks to inspire women to exploit it come to you first.
So why do you need to give up these things on a more serious stages of a relationship? Thus, it is evident the difference between good and bad cunning manipulation. In the first case, you use it to fail the man to the right decision and behavior. In the second - arrogantly shake of his energy and resources. Which of these options and choose whether to do it at all - you decide.
A simple algorithm
If you still prefer to use a manipulation in one or another form, then you need to learn how to do it. Simply put, to comprehend the basics of male psychology and realize an effective way to interact with the opposite sex. After all, they - very special people who badly needs a feminine energy. Get it, man gives his partner exactly what you need. Therefore, we offer you simple instructions on how to manipulate men and to achieve everything he wants.
Understand that your partner wants. This is very important - accurately identify their needs and contribute to their satisfaction, especially when it comes to women only functions - support, acceptance, forgiveness, caring. At the same time, you should gently emphasize their own role in his little happiness. And sometimes let him stay just a kid who wants to have fun and frolic.
Respect his worldview and values. There is nothing worse than a woman who disdains her man and his inner world. Chances are that your point of view, not at all similar. And in this case should not be every time to arrange because of this bloody war. Gently but firmly explain that you are entitled to their point of view, and if it can not completely separate, then certainly respect.
Avoid serious mistakes. What is it expressed? For example, a woman knows exactly what behavior infuriates her partner, and still continues to do so. No, of course there is a relationship built on mutual anger, but do you really want to just such a development? Irritation tends to accumulate, and men less and less want to do something for women. So that you understand your partner, and not have to once again provoke him to anger.
Keep it. Just above, we wrote that the role of the man to protect the woman and her role - is to support him and give him the power to protect. That is why our partners so need our care and attention to them. They appear in goodwill and psychological mood on favorite. A simple example of such support are the words "I believe in you" or "you will do it." And if a sudden failure, the excitement and the heat will be very useful.
Follow the emotional heat. As you know, we women, more and more are going through, and on any occasion. And we are absolutely normal in this creature. If you deprive a woman of deep and intense feelings, it would be not very good. And just as ill becomes a man when he feels too much emotion. He does not understand anything, quickly tired and starting to feel irritated. Do you think it is easy to be from him to achieve anything in this state? Therefore, when talking with your partner is slightly reduced emotional intensity - is that if we are not talking about your positive feelings for him (but in this case, you should be careful and reasonable measure).
Dress the way he likes. Men love with their eyes - that's a fact. Even loving heart, they still attach great importance to our appearance. Surely you know his tastes with respect to female beauty, so try to be attractive, but it is for him. This does not mean that you must now change appearance according to its ideals. But abuse flared jeans if he likes narrowed, probably not worth it. Or, choosing a new hair color, remember what it was like. It is important to remember that many things which seem to us nice, men are surprising and even disgust (for example, ugg boots). But there are those who are able to drive him crazy. The choice is yours, cause him pleasure or disgust.
Stay independent. It is important to understand this correctly recommendations. The emancipation of our society has reached such a global scale, that a host of women who do not take seriously the male courtship. They are by all means prove to themselves and others that they do not need support and care on the part of the stronger sex, because they can be themselves. But this is not true due to the nature of female nature. The downside of this process is manifested in the emergence of a category of women who cling to men and not allow them to pass. It is very important to maintain internal self-sufficiency and to be able to live, even if no one is close or there are problems in the relationship. But that does not mean a complete rejection of all men in their lives.
What greedy men?
To learn how to manipulate, you should know what to do peck men. All their "thin" places are derived from the features of male psychology, and it is necessary to rely on them, using a trick. What do they include?
The main men (and not only!) Weakness - is sex. Of course, we all love this thing, but because of the peculiarities of physiology in men it is "vulnerable" place. When there is the slightest hint of sex, blood drain from his head and the man rushes to the appropriate place. The ability to think is sharply reduced, but the desire to have fun, on the contrary, is growing. Such a mechanism is taking place, albeit in a less pronounced form, when a man feels a woman's sexuality. Such methods certainly enjoyed every one of us, wearing a short skirt, a blouse with a deep neckline and support bra for an important date.
Women's weakness at some point works even better than sex. That's how the world is that the woman is a vessel for the accumulation of resources and energy. Its main function - to keep the home, creating comfort and warmth in the family. A man has to protect her and give support, providing everything you need. That is why their husbands often leave from the strong and successful women to the less attractive but more soft and weak women. Particularly vulnerable to the weakness of women's sensitive and compassionate man who in life are willing to care for and maintain.
Says the man compliments. As they say, a kind word and a cat is nice. Just like us, men like to hear compliments in his address, especially those that relate to their masculinity, strength, perseverance, determination, success and other things. At this point, a real sense of self-esteem rise, which causes positive emotions. But it is important not to overdo it, otherwise praise is like a mockery, or flattery. In both the latter cases, the probability of obtaining a positive result tends to zero. People almost always feel the falseness on the subconscious level, so the praise really positive features.
Thanks - not the easiest aspect to manipulate, especially in women. Some women prefer to surround the man with love and care in the hope that he will remain with them even out of a sense of gratitude. But they made mistakes: in an attempt to "bind" a man they lose their sense of self-respect, and he just did not want to be with a woman. In addition, they often do for the partner those things that he did not really need or that he takes for granted. Accordingly, there is no gratitude not wait. The most appropriate strategy - to support and help the man in the difficult moments of his life, as well as to give when it is not expected and well worth the effort.
Guilt is a favorite string for playing many women. But, to their misfortune, men often do not like to take the blame once again. On the contrary, they prefer to "dump" all responsibility for problems on a woman and proudly retire. And then she "left holding the bag." Or they perceive any accusations as "cutting out the brain" and cease to respond to them. Therefore, guilt is necessary to play with the mind and occasionally - only when a man really goof.
But the men's desire to be number one, you can "ride" almost indefinitely. This effect we must hormone testosterone and male education notorious principle, which states that this male - it is always a winner. That is why man is always trying to be the most intelligent, strong, caring, confident, kind, rich - the list is endless. And all this - an excellent soil for manipulation! You can always hint (just fine), that if he is strong, then let him help you to carry heavy sideboard to your mom. And everything else in the same spirit. And be sure to praise him for such actions, showing the legitimacy of belonging to the group "most-most" of men.
Finally, we must not forget about the basics of dog training! Yes, you heard right - a classic reflex training can work wonders, not only with men. A simple example: every time her husband is going to go for a walk with my friends, my wife sweetly stretches, promising all kind of sex, if he will. It is easy to assume that a man chooses. Gradually, his mind fixed association between the type of desired behavior and reward, and he gets used to act on the machine. But even if you need a situational effect, you can always promise him something nice, or to draw the bright prospects of the future, if it goes the way you want.
Techniques
Let us talk about some simple tricks, the knowledge of which will help you learn how to manipulate men. They exist great variety, and we want to tell you about the most effective. But you can make up their own within a given general direction of higher thought.
Request for help. For women, a very bad habit to do everything herself. That is why we recommend that you ask a man for help, even in those moments when you can deal with the problem without it. But it's so cool, if the partner is given an opportunity to prove their strength! The most harmless is when you ask him to open canned food or help you to carry a heavy bag with things. This technique can be extended to set up the computer, replace light bulbs, furniture assembly, communicating with officials and many other things.
Thirty-three fun immediately. Imagine the scene when the man returned home from work, and there it is waiting for you cooked a delicious dinner and a woman, which is wearing the most beautiful indoor clothing or a new set of silk lingerie. You can add more amenities, such as watching a movie or even an interesting fight in his favorite computer game. Or buy him a magazine about new technologies, which is so rarely read. Naturally, the man razomleet after this and you will be able to him about something ask.
The promise of something special. You want your partner has finally made all the accumulated homework or led you to the theater? Promise him a fabulous night of sex for it! Or ask them to then go fishing with friends on the weekend that he had long wanted. A man has very much to award, in order to fulfill your request.
A mystery woman. Be silent, when really want to say something to the man - a small distance provokes him to conquer. Sometimes be busy with his chores for him, so he did not think that you are totally immersed in your relationship. Find something to do that will be just right for you, and where it will be "admitted". Use this method with caution and not overdoing that the man did not think that he is not interested in you.
In order to manipulate a man correctly, you should always bear in mind the fine line that separates good from evil. In other words, control men, but only for the sake of your relationship, not just to get their own benefit. Many women are being manipulated simply because no other way they can. Let the trick is just to a gentle seasoning a dish of your relationship and happiness in love you will be guaranteed!
