Here, finally, we found a man with whom relations not only bring extraordinary pleasure, but also developing rapidly. There comes a time when we want more. That is not just a meeting and tender kisses, but real intimacy. In principle, this is normal. Two people of different sex in order to fully get to know each other, have sex. There is nothing immoral in that premarital intercourse is not. If so find out the marriage was invented by mankind to legally allow sex between loving people. But its original purpose as ourselves and not justified. You can not make a man and a woman love each other because they have the stamp of the passport if they are sexually incompatible. Total bed spouse does not draw, and then they move away from each other, eventually becoming estranged.
In other words, sex in a relationship plays a very important role. If earlier premarital sex was considered almost a moral crime, but now public opinion has changed significantly. People have realized that many families are unhappy precisely because the couple is not able to reach an agreement in the intimate sphere. The reason for that can be anything - different physiology, different treatment for intimacy, different needs and so on. It turns out that a good sex and relationships, promising to always be strong, inseparable. This means that the intima is better to place before the men and women travel to the registrar. The problem is, when it is better to avoid - in the early days of dating or some time thereafter. How to understand it?
Why should carefully approach the vicinity of the first in a relationship?
Why do you need to really understand when it is the most appropriate time for the first sex? Well, no, of course, can not particularly bothered, go to bed after the initial meeting. And even to get a lot of pleasure from it. That's only when the acquaintance wants to consolidate and further, it is not the best option. Because, at first, then it will be difficult to find out what really draws man and woman to each other - the desire to close the repetition or more. And yet, in the end, to confuse. Yes, sex and relationships are intertwined, but it would be necessary to weave this was a smooth, harmonious.
At the same time, too long to pull the first intima too impractical. A person may like, and chat with him to cause serious concern. And now we are starting to build grandiose plans for later life. At the same time fully understand that relationships are impossible without sex, and finally decided to try. And then - bang, and it turns out that in this case the potential you have chosen a complete and definitive incompatibility. Requirements him, for example, others, or the smell does not fit ... But you never know! The result - a plan for the future is rapidly crumbling. It becomes very sorry and wasted time and effort spent on the construction of the castle in the sand.
In addition, if for quite a long period, do not try to combine the intimacy and relationships, one of the two can not sustain, and decide on the connection side. As a rule, this applies to the representatives of the stronger sex, sexual instinct that demands satisfaction, especially not in this regard with feelings. What man, if he is in love with a woman for sex which is not allowed for fear of losing it or by reason of the refusal of sex lover? Hate relationship without sex for as long as it does not turn to come? But not everyone is a virtue! Here we give birth to the Lady Knights Statement bed, to which is often beyond the physical attraction, no experience at all. At first. And then everything can be. There are many cases where a man tied to a bed of his girlfriend and vomited because of her chaste intercourse with another woman.
So how can that be? How do you know when it is time to combine sex and relationships? Generally, intimacy for men and women - different things. And age here, if you do not take into account the trivial physiological need, almost does not matter. Men want sex out of a desire for new experiences, curiosity or desire to bind the woman. Women are in the majority, wish it was with those who may subsequently become a partner in life.
It turns out that all we come to the first sexual intercourse in many ways. Representatives of the stronger sex perceive it primarily as another experiment. And the weaker sex - as a proposal to strengthen dialogue at the highest level. In other words, women tend to think that sex is something to oblige guys - no. And how can that be? That young man did not like the first, second, third night of the profits, which the travelers continued for a long time. Well, she was inexperienced these questions! To leave now or what? After all, a loving relationship without sex is defective and is unlikely to have some good prospects. But if a young person is well aware and unconsciously or even consciously prepared for such an eventuality, the gap for women after sex will certainly be a very heavy blow!
In general, even if the two people have not yet found a consensus in the field of intimacy, it can be corrected. It is likely that sex occurred too soon, and has partners can not feel easy in bed and liberated. Therefore, sex and relationships are still not intertwine harmoniously and without stress. And, therefore, proximity happened when her partners still not ready. For good sex must be mutual trust. But it is not. And inexperienced girl or boy would like to mutually explore the intimate sphere, but can not fully open to each other.
If so find out now the excitement we (normal people) feel only when fully confident in your partner. And who would be there no matter how mind, this is the case. You can, of course, to have fun and to spontaneous sex. However, it does not cost anything, as briefly and barely remembered. However, the feeling after a premature or too long to wait close to those in whom we have already managed to fall in love during the meetings, are sometimes much worse. How can we determine when it really needs to happen?
How to determine whether people are ready to have sex?
When man and woman ready to intima? This is an important question, since harmonious sexual relations in the family, which may be set up later, to begin with the first proximity. If it happened at the wrong time - too early or very late - marriage may be doomed. Because intimate life significantly affects the feelings of the people and is capable of adjusting them to simply destroy these feelings once.
On the other hand, high-quality sex can save a marriage, even at extremely conflict situations. But in order for it to become so, sex and relationships should try to combine smoothly and consistently. Therefore, the proximity of the first to be held at an appropriate time for it. Too soon after sex often produces frustration and boredom. Too long waiting for him - shyness, constraint in action, and as a result, the inner emptiness. It wanted something unusual, and everything came quickly and crumpled. Neither one nor the other does not contribute to progress in relations and the conversion of a conventional drive a real, long and unbroken love. Because, as we said, the real loving relationship without sex between healthy and well prepared for the intima people of different sexes is difficult to maintain.
So when is it that it is time for optimum sexual intercourse between a man and a woman? Then, when they can fully trust your partner and feel close to him in absolute safety. Only in this case, each of them can afford looseness actions. Her presence - a guarantee that sex with this person in the future will be the sphere that wants to learn constantly.
In addition, men and women have very well know each other and be confident that the relationship after sex does not fall apart. They can afford to discuss sexual topics and, if anything for the first time will not, discuss this issue and find a way out. Partners must not only feel that it is time for sex, but also want it madly, wanting to make each other happy. At the same time it's better to go to the first sexual intercourse is more or less judiciously. And even before it takes place, think about some of the issues:
- Is there enough time the pair met in order to determine the similarity of common interests and goals? And whether there is a similarity? If yes, sex and relationships are natural. If not, the girls and boys have to be prepared for the fact that the sex will not be the key to successful continuation of their relationship in the future;
- Can a man and a woman at the moment to communicate openly with each other, not while playing a role? In order for the first time to have sex, you should feel pretty relaxed. And this is possible only when the partners are not afraid to open up to each other entirely;
- Are the two paired want to close? Perhaps one person just concede to pressure from the other? In this case hardly the first sex will be the key to a strong relationship in the future. And it is better to wait before there is a mutual desire;
- Are men and women to the fact that when living together for some reason, they suddenly can not have sex? Marriage involves not only the general bed, but spouses and care about each other. There are many circumstances that make sex listless, rare or impossible. The partners intend to build a lasting relationship should take this into account and understand that the road to each other not only because of the fun in bed.
Well, that's about all. We can only add: before come to the conclusion that it is time to combine sex and relationships, the pair is desirable to discuss in detail this step. Sexual intercourse can lead to unwanted pregnancy or disease. All this should be discussed with each other without hesitation. If a man and a woman can not afford to be very frank with each other, then they are still not ready to intima. And the consequences of it, in fact, nobody is responsible.