Well, we finally have prepared dinner after work, all fed, change of dishes, and perched in a chair watching television. Now start your favorite movie! Suddenly a pious and pesters with the insistence on immediate intimacy. So what to do? How to refuse her husband sex if, you know, to be always ready for him? And here we are not ready, that's all! And what to do in this case? Leg kick or throw pillow? Yeah, so he fell behind after that ... Not a bad option - or even rude to call. Surely it insults and unbind. Then you can easily watch TV.
Just because that's what the situation may arise. Poduetsya man poduetsya and then wag his hand and find a more accommodating partner. Behold we then serials, ad nauseam. And we long to guess why he, so-and-so, turns his back in bed, or even already in it is not. But the answer to something - here it is, right on the surface! And I did not have to be rude to her husband when all its organs are set to love and affection. We do not have that attitude? So we will send him away diplomatically! And institute authorities then calm down and thought to get into someone else's bed does not arise.
Men - creatures with fine mental organization. Hurt them for a living - a piece of cake. Especially when it comes to sex. Regularly talk to her husband "no" harsh tone's like stepping on a cat's tail. Cat yells, hisses and hammered under the sofa. The man, if a woman refused sex, snaps, sulking and best washed off into another room, at worst - in someone else's apartment. Go and fished him out and then ... Well, how then to refuse to close and not to risk the relationship? Let's think about this question.
The reaction of men to refuse sex
Why do we want to be rude, if not better half time asking for sex? Because unconsciously, and sometimes consciously, we perceive it as aggression and attempt to violence. And reflexively resist and claws, trying to fight back. Be the supposedly expensive and infinitely beloved me alone. Otherwise kogotochki will go into operation. Well, it would seem, that's hard to understand?
However, it is clear to us all. Men like "Tram-tam-tam" with claws perceive differently. Trying to make love with his wife in their minds becomes equivalent scandal. As a result, the husband came to the conclusion - if the favorite bluntly refuses sex, so he does not satisfy her. What are the stronger sex in this case? They are trying to assert themselves on the side. Where with something Now More rises and self-esteem.
Movies Believing the left may result in failure for the family. Why would he bother, constantly twisting, hiding, running from house to house? Is not it easier to move entirely to that which is "always ready"? Easier. Especially when the favorite, having learned about the change, she hastily deport her husband in other people's hearth.
No, maybe someone from the women dreaming about such an outcome. And they are unlocked from the intimacy with your spouse deliberately in order to get rid of him. But most of us still do not wish to one day have disappeared from the wardrobe of his shirt and entrance hall - slippers. Therefore, to refuse sex when he was well, absolutely do not want, you have to correct. After all, we are responsible for those who once tamed!
Wriggle out of intimacy and not to offend this beloved man in several ways.
Methods without conflict refuse sex
If the road is coming to us and timidly asked him to put to him "boy" - it is not necessary, of course, going to bed by force. Nothing good about it. A normal man will notice that the "boy" we let clenched teeth. Deciding that the proximity to the wife - a bitter pill to swallow, he harbored a grudge. And the result could take revenge. How - we read above.
In order not to offend the faithful, it is necessary to switch from sex to something else. For example, if a man is interested in a game of poker - to the poker tournament, computer games - a new toy .... Hates poker and all computer? Then we look with her husband some sports events: football, hockey, boxing ... Nothing that the first twenty-two men running with one ball will seem pointless and uninteresting. A fist fight in the ring - a terrifying spectacle. Weight women, once indifferent to the sport, and even addicted to them are sports fans. Who knows, maybe it will happen to us the same thing. And if not, then for the sake of expensive men (just not bothered!) Can sometimes go into small sacrifice. He also will be so nice!
Unbearable to go to such extremes? Then combine business with pleasure. Pesters her husband demanding sex in an interesting transmission? Let us first light petting, then move on to the gentle caress "the boy." Hands-free is! And there, staring, and the transfer is complete, and to refuse sex itself does not want.
And finally, you cute smile and cooed favorite ear: "Today I'm not ready. But tomorrow I will build takoooe! Shaken! After all, men are concerned not so much the fact of refusal in the intima as:
The way in which sex was rejected;
The tone of the phrase sounded in the rejection of sex;
Not knowing when the sex is and whether it will at all.
So we disclaim close gently, promising that she would be held tomorrow. At the same time it is imperative to fulfill the promise. And try to make sex so masterly that faithful stunned. Then the next time he would be willing to accept the postponement of sex, expecting from it something fabulous.
In any case, loved harassment can not be ignored or rudely rejected. With a man we must speak gently, politely explaining his boycott. The notorious headache is not going to work. Drag another survey to find out why his wife so often plagued by headaches and how to get rid of them. As after the verdict of doctors' perfectly healthy! "Excuses to her husband? So it is better to invent something more original than non-existent disease. From wives psevdoboleznyami harried husbands often escape!
In general, in order not to puzzle over how to refuse sex is beautiful, we must remember that sex - employment is extremely pleasant and helpful. It soothes and rejuvenates, relieves stress, reduces weight, finally! No doubt - the libido at all different. Someone wants to close every day, someone - once a week, and someone does not want it, preferring ethereal love.
Yet the vast majority of both sexes on the nature of a normal level of sexual desire. But problems can arise from - for:
Lack of sleep. Lack of sleep negatively affects the human organism as a whole. Significantly suffers from it and libido. Therefore, you should try to sleep at least eight hours per day. Unable weekdays - fill up on weekends;
Lack of normal physical activity. Today, a lot of people sits at a computer all day long. As a result, it falls vitality, and sexual desire disappears. To avoid this, we must at least do regular morning exercises. But it would be better to go once a week to the gym and do it with a minimum of an hour. It helps restore sexy even a short walk if walk at a fast pace;
Tough diet. In such diets sexual desire becomes dull due to lack of vitamins and minerals. Restriction in the diet leads to the fact that our body does not get them in the right amount. What kind of intima can be discussed, if the legs a barely transposed? It is desirable to eat normally. But if the diet is necessary in the diet should include foods aphrodisiacs. And libido will be fine!
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The intimate life of my own - this is what makes the relationship complete, colorful and happier. Sex brings incredible man and a woman, the most revealing them to each other on all sides. However, there are relationships in which the lack of sex is commonplace. The reason may be male impotence and female frigidity, and temperament of both low and chronic fatigue, and more. What is the lack of desire to have sex, and whether it is harmful to health and family relationships?
As well without sex
I must say that in our time, a lack of quality of intimate relationships in the family is not surprising. The couple can love each other, and in the absence of a physical attraction. Well, they are cooled to each other sexually, so now divorced? But close spiritually. And this means a lot! In Japan, for example, only spiritual closeness in the family - even commonplace. Many couples do not hesitate to admit that they do not have sex. And live happily together at the same time.
In fact, the absence of sex marriages do not always break down, and relations between spouses can be quite warm and tender. Husband and wife just good together. Sex for them is the most important proof of the existence of love and the foundation for the family. Their marriage and without a harmonious and strong. And feelings are manifested in caring about the partner, intimacy, tenderness, care. Such couples create, as a rule, those people for whom love and happiness does not necessarily mean the presence of sex. They receive no less profound pleasure when holding hands, walking through the park together doing some business, talk at the table, and even a silent beside calm quiet evenings.
There is a lack of sex couples in which the wife extremely close emotionally. Often, they have children, but over the years dulled sexual desire, or even completely lost. Husband and wife are no longer lovers, remaining at the same time friends and partners. Sometimes it happens that the couple, who for some reason sex is excluded, agree - sex with another person, if we have such a desire, it is possible. And refer to this quite calmly.
In short, the relationship in the absence of sex can be very good, if a husband and wife at the same time comfortable. But there is quite rare. Usually, when there is no desire to have sex both spouses or one of their family problems.
When no sex is bad. Problems and causes
Yes, some couples get along fine without sex. However, most marriages in the absence of the intimate life of a fall, or turn into a kind of neighborhood under one roof. And the neighborhood is not always peaceful. The main reasons for this situation are usually chronic fatigue, stress, constant quarrels spouses, health problems of one of them, the inertia in the relationship and just pure laziness. It happens so that husband and wife are comfortable with the lack of sex until both go to work every day. And during the holidays, good rest, arrange some kind of a sex marathon.
One way or another, but not all men and women can suffer long-term abstinence without the psychological and physiological complications. Particularly affected by this are women for whom sex - an indicator of male love. "If he does not want me, then, I do not like! "- Think they are trying to find the cause of a man cooling. One of the women decides that he has a mistress, someone thinks that her erstwhile attraction disappeared, someone thinks that does not meet the loved one in bed. In any case, the lack of sex depresses the fairer sex even when they are asleep eroticism.
If a person is dissatisfied with something, he tries this somehow fight and begins to search, often unconsciously, ways to change the situation. If there is no desire to have sex in the family, they can be anything up to the destruction of marriage. However, the women themselves to such drastic measures are rarely solved. Unrealized sexuality they often simply splashed in constant scandals with her husband. As a result, he, in turn, can not stand this situation and leaves the family. And sometimes scandals contribute to the excitation, and the couple after they begin to fiercely and tirelessly to have sex. Good in this little, because over time, sex will need to be pre-scandal as doping. Regular burst of negative emotions can adversely affect the character's psyche and undermine significantly impair life.
In principle, there is another fairly easy way to compensating for the lack of intimacy in the family - relationship on the side. However, to march to the left tend to be more men than women. At the fairer sex and options have a lover less complex and in this respect more and household chores, especially not allowing to relax enough. And society favorably received revelers men, to women who have lovers, is hostile. So think of it here, to sleep with other men or not!
However, long-term lack of sex in women makes them frustrated and tense, as a rule, only the first time. Then they get used to it, accustoming himself to the idea that sex with her husband is neither night nor morning, nor in a week. With time you get used to the absence of sexuality and the body has only occasionally gives signals about their natural needs. However, unclaimed sexual energy is not going away! She needed a way out, otherwise it may cause an explosion that destroys the mental and physical health of the woman.
A good way out of this situation - activity. Choice of employment - an individual matter. Someone begins to intensively develop their careers, someone served in the charity, someone suddenly interested in sports or cross stitching. It does not matter which suddenly begins to devote himself to a woman, in the absence of good sex. The main thing is that it seriously fascinated by this. Otherwise, the flares of unwarranted aggression can not be avoided.
It should be noted that the enthusiasm for some business could save only from nervous breakdowns. As for the female physiology, the situation is somewhat different. The lack of sex life can lead to irreversible consequences, expressed as intractable chronic diseases. Therefore craze fad, but a spouse should still talk on the topic of sex. And so the conversation should not be delayed. Of course, you need to start talking politely and friendly. Perhaps the man himself is not happy with the status quo. However, to change something can not, because it brings health. If so, it is desirable to refer to specialists.
In fact, men try to avoid such calls, so it is important to choose the right time frank conversation and correct intonation. Under no circumstances can not say with raised voice pious or something to blame him. In the end, the lack of sex in the family - a common problem, and blame it occurs most often husband and wife. Irritation and anger in this case does not help. Solve a problem can only be sensitive, sincere dialogue.
It is possible that in the course of this dialogue, it turns out that a similar situation happened more because women than for men. It ceased to attach importance to their appearance, exhausted husband's eternal nagging and grumbling, he did not pay enough attention, he did not respect its interests and did not allow diversity in bed. And, therefore, it becomes sexually unappealing.
It is permissible reverse situation - a woman and seductive, and temperamental, but the man has a lot of sex is not required. He could do one or two sexual contacts per month. This feature should be taken into account and try to make the rare moments of intimacy bright and unforgettable. One way or another, but to find out the reason for failure in intimate relationships is necessary. And to try to eliminate this cause. Well, if this is not possible ... then take everything with kindness and philosophically and start dancing and studying foreign languages. And the family continues, and knowledge and skills increase.
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