Almost all the kids, after they first teeth appear, start looking for a use for them and biting. According to child psychologists, biting is a completely natural way of knowing the baby of the world. However, to make such behavior norm crumbs interaction with the world around him is still not worth it. And without exception, all parents need to know how to wean a child to bite.
So - there is a problem - a child bites, what to do? How to explain the tiny silly that bite an apple or carrot is not only possible, but necessary, but try to pick of mother, father and brother is not worth it? Parents kid tormented meditations - how to react to the bites of the baby? Make it clear to him that you do not like this behavior? And suddenly, thus it is possible to injure the delicate child's psyche? And he understands the ban? Continue to endure in the hope that this pipsqueak outgrow the habit, and the problem goes away by itself?
But all is not so simple. Teeth crumbs, despite their small size, strong enough, and you could hardly restrain a cry of pain after a rodent bite native. At the playground crowd of kids at your appearance suspiciously quickly thins out, and visit your child invite why - it just once ...
And if it was time to go to kindergarten, parents and all fall into a state of righteous anger. And how could it be otherwise? After all, your crumbs, such a sweet and adorable baby all become unfairly picking on him and saying things about any slander? You're used to all complaints of educators that bites a child in kindergarten, habitually respond that it is too small and does not understand anything. And a special problem that bites a child in kindergarten, you also do not see, on the contrary, experiencing some kind of pride in their crumbs, able to stand up for themselves.
However, once the pope one of your cute rodents bitten severely threatened your child that next time he will punish him, and advised you to seek help from a child psychologist to figure out why your child is biting and pinching. And - lo and behold - your child is expressively looked at this very alien dad, but the child behind. And here you are covered by this confusion. So, your pipsqueak all aware? This means that you should focus all their efforts on what to wean the baby from the bad habit of biting. And how to be with the child the necessary freedom, which they say all child psychologists?
What can and what can not?
For the first time your child has tested the compressive force of gum at a time when he sucked milk. After all, you can get the milk, only to make some effort and squeezed properly gums maternal nipple. In addition to the mother's breast or nipples simulators for growing tooth steel rubber teethers and toys. If the time when the baby teeth appear first, my mother still continue breastfeeding, she would feel the natural curiosity of the crumbs he meets, biting his mother's breast.
A woman in any case should not suffer in silence, but even more so to encourage such behavior kid. Otherwise you risk biting child. Required as soon as your baby for the first time tries to bite you, let him know that you do not like. If a child tries to bite again, take his chest - he must clearly understand that biting, he loses not only milk, but the mother's breast. By the way, take away the chest - the best way how to wean the year-old child to bite. As a rule, even the smallest crumbs very quickly begin to understand that my mother is not biting. The reasons why young children bite is a little different and the child outgrows them quickly.
However, very often grown up a little pipsqueak again begins to bite, often without any - any apparent reason: a simple approach to one - and suddenly a bite. And here, too, is important right response surrounding the baby loved ones. However, before we talk about how to respond, I would like to focus attention on the parents because such biting child as boredom. In most cases, boredom is the answer parents' questions about why children bite. So peculiar way the kid is trying to attract adult laying out, it is most often the mother.
For a child it is essential as often as possible to be in the spotlight mom and dad. Nor for the kid does not matter what caused this burst of attention - a rush of affection or anger caused by the bite. That is why child psychologists and educators tirelessly asserting the need to give the child as much attention. Constantly communicate with the child, often praise him, hug and kiss. Too many parents are afraid of such behavior of a spoiled child. But do not confuse love with permissiveness - love to pamper impossible.
- I do not want to communicate with you!
However, when trying to bite the child as quickly as possible, try to limit your communication with him. If a child fighting and biting, in a stern voice tell him that you do not like this behavior. Incidentally, psychologists during a conversation with a child are advised to sit down on his haunches, sinking, so the level of the child. Anything you say will be understood and accepted the crumbs much better. Once you make your baby suggestion, leave the room - the child quickly understand the cause - effect relationship between the bite and the disappearance of her mother. As a rule, such a measure very effectively helps wean the baby biting.
If your pipsqueak bite, try the following tactics behavior. Do not suffer pain as you normally would. During bite loud shout: "Ah! To me it hurts "or something like that. Such a measure is sometimes very, very effective - once may be enough for the baby ever forgot his habit of biting.
But, alas, this method is good only for the sensitive children who are able to empathize with people around. These kids are able to cry, seeing how other pipsqueak kolenochki broke, or when a stray dog or cat. However, less sensitive nature believe that is bad only when they do hurt. But they have every right to hurt others.
- Securing the negative associations with a bite.
Many parents often hear advice to bite the child back. Like so, the child bites are the most negative associations. But in fact, this is misleading. Such tactics behavior of adults often leads to the opposite result. Bite the child, we give him a confirmation of the correctness of his behavior: "I'm going to bite, because my dad bites too."
A much more sensible thing to do would be not to show reciprocal aggression, but rather to express sympathy for the victims. Hug, kiss of a family member who attacked your little biting aggressor. Such tactics behavior make the child think about the admissibility of such behavior.
If a child repents
In that case, if the child has bitten someone - either in a fit of emotion, not purposefully, he immediately checked himself and sincerely repents of his actions, it is not particularly hard to abuse. Incidentally, a similar situation can be used for the development of empathy in the kid the people around him. Let the little rodent to blow bitten place, stick the adhesive tape, give a toy offended.
Perhaps some parents deem such efforts unnecessary because such seemingly small things, believing that the usual "sorry" will suffice. However, in this case, when the crumb gets older, it is not surprising that no attention and assistance from him you will not wait, except for duty "simply" thrown over his shoulder. No children are born insensitive, namely you and such they grow.
Children's nervous system is very sensitive and children very much prone to overstimulation. And in such a situation to control their emotions kid practically not. If the child is no reason, no reason at all bites someone from the children during active play, or in kindergarten, he may simply - simply very tired. However, this assumption is valid only in those cases where the bite for a child is what - something out of the ordinary, but in any case not a norm of behavior.
In this situation, in any case, do not scold your child - it is already very much afraid of this invincible flash of anger with which and adults - that people cope is not always possible. Emotional stress - this is another reason why a small child bites. Adults in these cases as soon as possible should take the crumbs in a quiet and peaceful place.
However, in no case do not do it in a way that the child can perceive the care to place the game as punishment. Motivate your action is the need to get some rest and no more. Stay close to the crumbs until, until it is completely calm - talk to him, read his book, but in any case, do not leave him alone, because it can aggravate the psychological state of the crumbs.
In the event that a pipsqueak, at least once allowed himself to bite someone, you need to watch him carefully, controlling mood and timely preventing such outbursts. If you notice that in the course of the game your child is nervous, started to show the first signs of discontent, distracting the child, set it to something else.
Anger - it is absolutely natural emotion that has the same right to exist as an insult, and the joy of others. Admit to yourself - even you, adult and able to control their emotions people often feel anger. But you, unlike the kid, well aware of how it can throw so as not to harm the people around you.
So why not teach your kid? Show crumbs as you can knock palms on the cushions, needless tear paper into small pieces, in the end, screaming loudly. Of course, the cry is not the best way out, but it was with the help of a small child crying easiest way to get rid of his overflowing emotions, by the way, both positive and negative. But you will surely agree that shouting at times preferred over painful bites.
The complete suppression of negative emotions crumbs inadmissible in any case, because it can lead to the development of various neurotic reactions. As a result, similar to the alleged control of anger can turn into long-term treatment in a child psychologist and a neurologist. You agree that this is too high a price for silence in the house.
Blackmail and threats
Even the little kids are wonderful psychologists and very often deliberately drive the adults in a framework that is currently needed for them. This applies including biting. Children are very well aware that biting ugly and embarrassing. Better yet, they understand that it is my mother in the first place would be embarrassed if crumb starts biting people in front of strangers, such as in the store.
And crumb begins to skillfully manipulate these their knowledge, resorting to blackmail, "buy me, or I'll bite you." Most often, my mother will give the child wants, just to avoid an unpleasant scene in front of strangers. And until they get to the house, my mother will no longer be angry or punish your child. And the child, well knowing it would use a similar state of affairs.
The best solution to this problem would be the elimination of provoking environment. He began to act up? Bring the baby out of the store, despite his cries and weeping. Do not succumb to the entreaties and toddler tantrums and do not come back to the store. One - two of these lessons - and your child will ever leave the habit of trying to blackmail parents.
Wean the child can bite. After all, when the year-old child bites, it is still possible to understand and accept, but when trying to bite 3 - 4 year old toddler, measures must be taken in an emergency mode. But do not hope that you do this immediately, especially if you are a long time does not give the baby to understand that such behavior is unacceptable. Your main assistants in this difficult task should be consistency. Once forbidden to bite, you can not never bites down with it baby, even if you are really at the moment to do once he notes. Otherwise, the child will try beyond what is permitted again and again, hoping that the parents are not up to it, and the punishment for his actions will follow.
Of course, your child will grow up soon. And certainly in the school it will not solve the problem by bites. But weaning baby biting at an early age, you will save your child from the fact that all children will shun him. But the self-esteem of man begins to be put back in the deep childhood. So let your baby grow smart, happy and confident in their abilities toddler.