Contents:

• What you should not do if you want to bring back a loved one
• How to act in order to bring back a loved one

Love relationships - a fragile thing that requires for its preservation great effort. There is not enough always look chic and be sexy at any time of day or night. Above the conservation and development of such relations must be constantly working, otherwise one (it's not perfect) time they can not only give a crack, but does shatter.

Unfortunately, we often forget about it and start to perceive the presence of a loved one in your life as a matter of course. We are complacent, believing that he will not get anywhere. A man suddenly picked up and left ... as if the sky fell to the ground. In his heart - sadness, pain, hurt, resentment, his head just the thought: "Why did I quit? ". Hands fall, trouble sucks like a swamp, the future seems dim and hopeless. But - stop! Suggested as a foot of grief, of course, easy. Or maybe it would be better to fight with him and think about how to return the beloved? For a young woman always has that chance. What you need to do and how not to behave in such a case?

What you should not do if you want to bring back a loved one

Usually women experiencing care of the beloved, make the same mistakes, completely eliminating all possibility of his return for good. What is this error?

1. The constant reliving the moment of separation and search options that man could at this point becomes. All this is accomplished is pointless. My favorite has gone, that happened, nothing has changed. You have to think, what to do and not to cultivate his pain, provoking a deep depression. Denёk or two and you can porevet to vote, and then it is desirable to get angry - as I have such a cool and compelling thrown ?! This calm and allow to act in the right direction;
2. Attempts to return a loved using tantrums and laments like "I live without you I can not! "Or" Come back, I still forgive you! ". The stronger sex can not stand hysterical sobs, screams and efforts to evoke pity. Moaning girl without it looking sorry and stay near it does not want. And the phrase "everything is easier" puts a man in the position of the accused. Why go back to the one with whom you will feel close to the offender? Better to be alone or find another woman, which is relaxed and comfortable;
3. Discussion of the break in relations with everyone from the insults of men and diligence to humiliate him. Such abuse will certainly become known favorite - "well-wishers" around abound. And it certainly did not help his return. Well, who voluntarily renews relationship with a man spit in the face? From such people in the best run. In the worst - meet the same. What kind of truce then can we talk?
4. Increased interest in the rival, if care men suffered because of it. It is not appropriate in all respects. Firstly, often rival in something superior. It may be younger, more beautiful, more successful. It beats strongly on self-assessment, which is already barely on his feet. Blow - and it collapsed, turning its possessor a faceless creature with a lost look dull and gray appearance. And secondly, the details of relationships with loved another woman capable of inflicting wounds not healing life. Why engage in self-torture?

After the departure of the men in any case should not immediately rush after him and hourly call in the hope to change something. It is necessary to wait for some time to calm down, weigh everything and decide if you need to so that it again was near. If you really need, then you have to pull yourself together and start acting, focusing on their target.

How to act in order to bring back a loved one

So how to get a loved one guy who decided to break off relations? Perhaps the most important thing in this issue - first learn to love yourself. This means that you simply hate the reflection in the mirror, which is now demonstrating swollen from crying eyes dull pale face, red nose and wild hair. You just need to look stunning! Hiding away negative emotions cease to bray, wash. And then impose a light make-up and go to the hairdresser - it is necessary to update the image and radically changed hairstyle. Fresh image will require a new style of clothing. Choosing the right, clothed, and safely move on.

Now you need to find a way to see a loved one as often as possible. This in no case should not be all the time cloyingly loom where it happens. Meet a man should be as if by chance, always cute surprised such a pleasant coincidence. It is advisable to talk to him, while remaining friendly and welcoming. Acidic or suffering from mine and strutting inaccessible kind are excluded. It is necessary to understand a loved one, that the world did not collapse without it, life goes on. And it continues in general good. That's just not necessary (as many do) for the sake of talking incessantly about how everything is now zashib. Regards as empty bluster, even if it's true. And decides that his attempt to cheat. Suffice it with a soft smile and ask how things were going, and then sincerely wish good luck and goodbye. We must remain mysterious! This worries.

Very good reception in this case - to establish a close relationship with his mother Man, if they had not been before. Let it be a friend who can tell about his love for her son, about how bad and without him we would like to start over. In a conversation we must emphasize the dignity of man and try not to mention his shortcomings. In an extreme case, to talk about them condescendingly, with understanding. Rare mother is not an aggressive mood, hearing the accusations against her child, even when he was already overgrown independent fellow. Why should we support his decision to the person? We need an ally, not an adversary.

Another wonderful technique to help return a loved one - to make him a friend. To do this, of course, have to discuss with a man that relations have moved to the stage of friendship. Perhaps at first he did not believe it. So tactfully and clearly explain what former fellowship gives reason to hope for understanding, mutual assistance and support in the future. Say, are not strangers all the same people! Who else to trust, but someone who knew about you almost everything. After hearing about the trust, a man surely relent. And then we can freely call him often to meet, simply asking about new life and the problems of successes and failures. And ask sensible advice for a particular case. But at the same time to prevent trespassing friendly relations and in any case did not even hint at a return to the past!

In the end, turn out so - as seems to be near, a man is forced to adhere to certain behavior of the framework, which was previously available to close. And the forbidden fruit is known to attract. We just loved to teach the first permanent presence in his life, and then disappear from time to time, citing urgent business. And do not explain what kind of case. Let bored and speculated on where the missing friend, and what she was doing. Men's curiosity - a strong piece! It is able to excite the imagination and evoke a storm of emotions, pushing sometimes not very sensible things. Hardly favorite resist the attempts to find out what was going on with his ex woman and try to meet in order to put everything in its place.

When the meetings have to be always cheerful, lively, a little mysterious. You must look your best, even if expensive friend came early in the morning, without warning beforehand about his visit. Such visits generally desirable. It will be a chance shamefully cover up, to throw in his eyes to the bathroom in his underwear. Oh, it gets stronger sex is such a sight! And if it is backed by the knowledge that once this seductive body was available, if at all crazy. But even if it will bring not, in any case, will continue to stand up in front of the eyes and beckon, lure, attract ... That's good. We just this right.

To the man quickly returned, you need to let him know that the empty space of the second half have contenders. However, it is not necessary for this plant with some cavalier serious novel. This may negatively affect future relations with those who want to return. Enough light flirtation with friends or acquaintances, walking with them in the evenings, joint visits to some events. It is important to know about this favorite, and was convinced that we have fans. This will make him doubt the correctness of his act, and think about whether it is true the old woman was assessed. Maybe something happened to her unnoticed? Man certainly would start to look for the answer to this question and begin to look for a way to meet as often as possible.

If the favorite is back, it should be remembered - Last model of relations with it can not be repeated. Otherwise, all five will end the same. Fix something then it would be impossible. In the same river twice, and is not included. And so three times ... Therefore it is necessary to analyze the previous version of the communication and to work on its reconstruction. Why does a man go? Maybe it did not suit our excessive independence or, on the contrary, the desire to please in everything? If the reason for withdrawal was excessive independence, it is necessary to be just a little weaker, unprotected, vulnerable. In the case when a loved ran away from excessive humility, to be more free and not to strangle him with his love.

In general, it often happens - change in an attempt to bring back a man, a woman suddenly discovers his new qualities. It becomes seductive, spectacular, communicative than before and begins to catch yourself admiring a lot of male attitudes. As a result, to increase confidence in their own attractiveness. The pain of loss passes unnoticed, new goals and new pleasant acquaintances. And suddenly it turns out that life not only goes on - it beats a fountain, enjoying every minute and promising a lot of good to come. Caring people are not remembered with nostalgia. She changed her gratitude for what has been. It turns out that all the efforts to return the man explains only offense. In fact, they were steps to upgrade, which pushed very fate.