At the beginning of their relationship, and the two lovers do not allow the thought that someday this euphoric feelings can result. So what, that others love then passes? It's in the other. ... And they will all wrong! They have - the love for life. Ah, it is good that in most cases it really kept forever. But the same is not saved!
Time passes and one of the lovers (and sometimes both) are increasingly mind flashed: "We need to leave - it will be right." It should be noted that the fact of parting with the implement it is not necessary. That's how people are, that sometimes they need to stay apart and break apart. However, sometimes a couple of really worth to end the relationship. Otherwise, the once blazing love risks becoming, at best, indifference and alienation, at worst - to hate. How to understand that the gap will be the best way out? And leave the boy not to feel a bad feeling?
Signs that relations are deadlocked
Yes, unfortunately, it also happens that one day we will understand - the relationship stalled. And the question of what to do next, become more painful with each passing day. Specific reason for breaking up as it is not observed. But the former affection, the desire to be together every minute, the desire to know everything about each other have gone missing. You can explain this banal truth - romance, sooner or later always ends. And is replaced by the monotonous routine. So now each time to say "breaking up" as soon as these occur most weekdays? You can easily stay then left with nothing!
Of course, to leave as soon as he realized that the romance in the relationship is missing, it is not necessary in any case. Our senses have a feature to change its edge and move to a new, more relaxed quality. It is normal for their further strengthening and development. You can not burn forever love, there is a huge risk of one day burn down. Therefore, if the relationship suddenly became not so hot, hasty to conclude that they have exhausted themselves - is unwise. It is not a significant reason for the separation.
What are the signs say that men and women have been exhausted?
Partners bored together. I do not want to discuss any films, books, events. Do not visit draws together some activities. Interesting to spend time in a circle of friends, but not to retire from society;
The main reason for the discussion are abstract, superficial conversations, not lively discourse on joint plans for the future. Talks concerned mainly domestic aspects of life;
A man and a woman there, though in different worlds. Everyone has their own interests in contact only rarely and briefly. Partners prefer to relax apart and feel at the same time much better than during leisure pair. And neither one nor the other did not express any displeasure at the same time;
The two do not get bored without each other. They do not care how things are going to, who had been very expensive. Whatever happened to him, it does not cause any particular emotion. And if one partner tries something to talk about itself, the other is irritated and tries to interrupt the conversation as soon as possible;
Men and women no pleasure to please each other presents. They either do not give anything, or give only because it is made by confining himself in something this standard;
Partners feel more comfortable when there are nearby and can be engaged each their own affairs. They have no desire to help each other to solve common issues, and even to know where, who and how to spend time;
Man and woman do not experience the acute need for communication and now only calls up only in order to discuss some business and personal moments. News they prefer to talk to friends and girlfriends, and if you need some advice, too, are turning to them;
The pair are not drawn to the regular physical contact. A man and a woman does not kiss at a meeting and parting, and almost never embrace. Sex in a relationship may still be present, but it is becoming quite rare and monotonous;
Partners are increasingly say "I" and not "we." The most basic of their life plans are different, everyone rushes forward on his way.
Here, perhaps, and all of the major signs that you need to leave. However, they certainly can not be considered an indisputable indicator of the complete collapse of relations. There are many couples, having passed such a period of alienation and successfully continue the further joint life. However, these symptoms often lead to the fact that people break up completely, and then regret it. So how do you avoid the pitfalls? How to make the word "parting" departed in the direction?
Is it possible to maintain the relationship?
I must say that between man and woman is no warmth, they are not eager to be always together - this is not an excuse to scatter in different directions. There are a lot of alliances based on the calculation. They quite successfully there for years, and no such unions are not particularly nervous because of a lack of passion and mutual attraction. In addition, the wall of alienation can occur between loving people. The reason for that - the unspoken resentment, betrayal, failure to discuss the problems of spiritual immaturity.
Therefore, before taking a final decision, it is desirable to openly discuss the situation, putting a question point-blank: "We need to leave or not? ". Even if the answer will not be happy, he finally determine what is actually happening. Yes, it happens that one person still hopes to restore relations, the other emphatically does not want. The best solution in this case will go away. The continued existence side by side, most likely, will only exacerbate the situation.
Of course, the separation is not always easy to pass. Often, when put to the last point, suddenly found out that the man and the woman is still something in common. Just before it was not taken into account. And that "something" can be very significant. Sometimes we do not realize how firmly between us moral and social connection. And we understand this is after parted. Well, have to go through a difficult period. Or avoid it. Everyone decides for himself.
In general, if both the Union can still laugh together on the same things - all is not lost. Focus on your feelings, right prioritize. You and only you need to understand whether you need this man. If so - start with yourself. Change your attitude towards the status quo. break the relationship you always have time, try their best to adjust.
How to leave
If you do understand that further relations with the guy to nothing lead, you need to think how to part with it. Especially when you realize that his feelings for you will not fade away and your have given to another person. It is in this case, the separation is inevitable. Can not do without it, and when you understand - the person who is next to you, not who you want. He does not reckon with your opinion, it is a cause for jealousy, where it is not. And maybe even change, but he is in no hurry to leave on his own, only he understood the reasons.
So how do you give up the right to a man who until recently was expensive as competently explain to him that your life together is over? Consider this question in more detail.
If your partner is a person subject to impulsive and affects, the best option would be a written explanation. Describe the nature of the problem in a letter to explain the reason why you hast taken the decision. Oh, and do not forget to thank the man for the best moments of your life together (surely you have something to remember), have no scandals and just to let you go;
With a calm guy and you can discuss the situation face-to-face. Of course, to start a conversation will be very difficult. However it is better to tell it like it is, be honest and do not start a conversation from afar. It is best to competently and concisely express your claims without giving a reason to justify. After all, you've definitely decided to leave, and another long conversation to nothing lead;
Leaving go. Remember this statement? If you will keep coming back, for example, forgotten things, it will be another nervous shock for you, and for the partner;
Leave immediately and forever. Only in this way will be right. But do not leave without explanation. A man should know what deserves your favor and you deserve it at all.
Of course, all of the above tips will not guarantee that the parting will be without scandals. The man can begin to take revenge on you or put pressure on the pity. Continuing to call, just come and help in everyday problems. Never give in to provocations, if necessary - to change the phone number. Not going back, do not give up hope. Time will pass and he will calm down and your life will go in a new direction.
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