- A serious warning for those who do not want to be deceived
- Why are men so difficult?
- The first steps on the way to winning his heart
- Play with open cards
- If she tries to return all
What if you meet a nice guy, but he had recently suffered a break with another girl, and it is experiencing a dire? Yes, imagine that, even in such a difficult period when regret about lost love tormented soul, representatives of the strong half of humanity can seek solace in the arms of a new passion and try to build a regular relationship.
It is we, the women, a long time can not take a step toward another love, avoid meetings, crying, wrapped in the shirt of the former young man, and so on. But most of the men, in spite of the still fresh scratch (and someone and wound) in your heart, obey the old natural instincts and goes in search of a new lover.
But! Wait blaming the guys in the insensitivity and callousness, because this behavior does not mean that the old relationship and associated with happy memories forgotten. Not at all, your young man (although he still seems not yours, but it has all the chances to become in a short time, because you want it so!) Is quite capable of experiencing painful experiences. During your meetings, he always remembers the former sympathy on his face grief and sorrow. Instead of rejoicing in your society, he yearns for the one that broke his heart. So can you help the guy to deal with the painful question of how to forget the girl, with whom relations have left a deep mark on his soul? And whether to do it or not to mess with the past?
Alas, the world is not such a secret lab, where you can permanently erase the memories of men about their ex-girlfriends. Whatever scientists invented and how far they have no stepped in the study of human psychology, but a cure for love no one has yet invented. Therefore, there is no precise instructions, and for the guys, tormented for answers to questions about how to forget the girl you love. To help in this time can only, as well as participation and support of loved ones.
A serious warning for those who do not want to be deceived
"Dear girls, if on your way met a young man who suffers from the separation from the former passion, that of self-preservation run away with all haste! "- This phrase roughly meaning can be found in the majority of glossy magazines, designed for an audience of representatives of the beautiful half of humanity. And no matter how cruel or sounded this call, believe me, it is not without reason.
After all of your efforts on something to alleviate the plight of disappointed in love young man certainly bear fruit. He roused the spirit and look at the world with different eyes, in which instead of suffering again shine thirst for new victories on the love front. But, unfortunately, it is you, then he will not be considered as an object of deep and reverent attitude. Even if you are in a difficult period as a real woman, violated every convention and treated the wounded man's heart the ancient infallible means - good sex.
Thanks, offer sincere friendship and a rare meeting with a cup of coffee in the morning - usually, it's what can expect a girl who dreamed of becoming the single most desirable to be disappointed in love Man. It is only in novels and melodramas in gratitude for the participation of the heroine finds the same peace in the arms of her prince, with eyes that finally drops the veil, and he realizes that happiness - that is, very close. But in reality, you can expect quite different.
But no matter how we warned, however they warned, no matter how frightening the possible unpleasant consequences, it is sometimes very difficult to take a step to the side. A touch of romanticism inherent suffering man, the eternal spirit of competition, the desire to prove to himself and to others the power of her own beauty, femininity and wisdom, as well as the notorious maternal instincts push us to relationships with those who still do not know how to forget his girlfriend.
If this happens in your life, if you are confident that will be able to do everything possible to be the very one and only for the chosen one, have patience and wisdom. To begin with, before looking for ways on how to help your guy, think about whether you are ready for such an act? Believe me, to force him to forget ex-girlfriend will be very difficult. It's a real sacrifice: it is constantly listening to the outpouring of how they were good together, suffer from jealousy at every mention of her name.
Even the most powerful man after breaking affair become unbearable whiners. In trying to help the guy, you're a long time to turn into a free psychoanalyst, tearing his ears details someone else's privacy. And if he starts to pay attention to you, as a woman, you will be constantly compared with the ex-girlfriend. Often, men need vest, which you can complain. So they are looking for a Woman, briefly able to play such a role. Use you as a lifeline, the young man went looking for a new relationship in another place.
Believe me, it is better to be second than the first, after the break. Very rarely guys imbued with feelings for his savior so that marry her. If you are not afraid of these challenges, then you're really in love, and ready to fight for their happiness. Well, that is your right. Who does not risk, that does not live "happily ever after." Maybe, just you are destined to become that rare exception, perhaps, it is this young man with the eyes of a sick dog is your destiny?
Why are men so difficult?
Often the guys who threw a girlfriend, painfully experiencing the gap. As a rule, they remember all the best moments that bound them, while they were together. Strange as it may seem, but most men do not perceive itself in dire parting with ex-girlfriend, and the loss of great emotions associated with it. They, of course, do not understand, considering that such feelings and emotions able to give them a treacherous pass.
Indispensable disappointment awaits those of you who try to act on the principle: "I love you so much that their previous relationship you forget very quickly! "The thing is, what the young man has to be inflamed with reciprocal feelings to you. And this is the most difficult. After all, past relationships probably were filled with a variety of emotional experiences with his hand - a passion, quarrels, reconciliation and so on.
Memories of them can be erased only by a new flow of not less than thrills. However, after a bright flash and a sharp break a person is not able to immediately experience another. The brain puts a kind of protective unit. Therefore, sex with a new girlfriend - it is self-evident and even necessary, but to penetrate the heart of the guy and settle there for good - a very complex task. Even if it happens, it is not as fast as you want. And only if a very competent action on your part.
Men - leaders in nature. It's very painful to realize that they had been abandoned, they have preferred someone else. Trying to forget the ex-girlfriend, the boys greatly overstate the importance of relations with it. The only way to reduce the significance of this - to begin to meet the other. In this case, you. Try to give your suffering elect new emotions to replace those he lost. Maybe at first it will be bad to respond to your efforts - the pain of loss can not be forgotten too quickly. But if a young person you really like it if you are not indifferent to him and want to be there, you should not stop there.
The first steps on the way to winning his heart
- Be a good friend for a guy who is so you like. To do this is not difficult, because right now it is so necessary support in the face of the person concerned. Do not rush things, because the rush - a bad assistant. Do not be too intrusive in the desire to stir up a man. Probably until he perceives you as a target for a new romance. If you become too obviously showing him their love, the guy appears uncomfortable feeling that he was something you have to. It alienate him from you, and he again closes in itself.
Alone, a man in desperate need of a woman's attention. Endless conversations about the former, praising its qualities memories of their life can bring real pain involuntary listener. Are willing to tolerate and at the chosen look for the answer to the question of how to forget the girl, which became the cause of his suffering? Then remember the most important thing: you do not need to be replaced by former girlfriend. New love - yes, but not a copy of another woman.
- Change the paint. Learn how unhappy sufferer was to meet with the young lady. Maybe he went to the leather pants and cut through the bike. Perhaps he listened to rock and loved to go to festivals. What new has brought in his former life passion? And suddenly her whole family loved the skiing, and your young man exchanged the bike on skis? But rock music was replaced by an unobtrusive pop to please her taste?
In this case, you should do two things: "to love" motorcycle and help the guy to go back to the old hobbies. Buy a ticket for the next rock festival and treat a loved one. Important things once certainly displace the memory shared cross-country skiing, winter vacation resort and dancing Dima Bilan.
Pay attention to detail. Unobtrusively offer him a new movie, music, entertainment. Chances are, you already know by heart, which combined the common interests of your elect and former passion. Try all quietly change and make your own habits, traditions and rules. Make this a must, but without ostentatious and pressure.
Play with open cards
How long does a guy that you like so much, is tormented by memories of another girl? It's safe to say that the exact answer to this question does not exist: it all depends on his character and temperament, as well as on how strong was the affection. If you have a decent time has passed and you are no longer able to withstand the competition with an invisible opponent - tell the guy about his feelings. Make it clear that you will be hurt in the meaningless third triangle, and you want to be his only one. What does it mean? One of two things: either it will reflect and take your side or offended and will continue to suffer.
If you're unlucky and the man chose the second option, do not worry and blame themselves. It seems he does not want to break out of a prolonged depression, and prefers to continue to howl at the moon - that is his right. It only means that the young man who is so much like you, in fact, turned out to be a wimp, and you deserve the best. Do not waste your time on someone who is not able to cope with life's difficulties.
If the guy decided to stay with you - that's a good sign. But do not hurry to rejoice: it is possible that he could make it out of gratitude. Started dating like a real couple, do not turn into a girl ready to understand and forgive any of his actions. Of course, you want to show you what a wonderful and extraordinary. But in his desire to please the guy be reasonable. Do not overdo it and do not become the one to whom it is not necessary to report and which could not give a damn.
In order to understand the logic of a man, try to imagine such a plot. For example, a young man who you love, loves art and came to the gallery with a view to enrich your collection. He sees two beautiful paintings from which to choose the one that likes more. One of them (that's you) has exactly belong to him, for the second (his ex) have to pay. Do you think a more interesting version of the guy? Of course, the one that is worth fighting for.
So do not get a free trinket owned him, body and soul. A woman in a normal situation, not really tempted, but if there is a rival inaccessible, the chances of success even less. As you know, people tend to appreciate what goes easy. This feature can be used in the fight for the heart of the elect, to help him to quickly find an answer to the question of how to forget his girlfriend and start a new relationship with you.
Uncover the truth about his feelings, do not sit idly by. Demonstrate guy independence, pride and the dignity with which accepts the situation. Stop calling first post better serve briefly as possible and with a delay of a few days. In social networks lay out pictures of how you spend your time having fun. Work on their own appearance, change the image to appear at a meeting before the eyes of the elect hateful mystery, did not look like a sympathetic listener recent revelations.
But do not fold the stick to alienate Man excessive coldness. Be sincere, but at the first mention of the former, you should make a bored face and no longer support the topic. Let know the guy that really want to help him, and you know how to forget the girl who was the cause of his suffering, but not at the expense of your feelings. Do not worry if such revelations make the guy get away with an injured look. Just give him some time to understand their own emotions and decide, finally, what is better - to go towards happiness with you, or to grieve over the shards of the old relationship, but alone.
If she tries to return all
Let's say you managed to overcome all the obstacles and you have begun to live a happy life with his chosen one. But here's the rub: ex-girlfriend, who left him in cold blood, wants to return the guy back! She watches him near the entrance, exasperated calls and messages, trying to embroil you. You may think that now she is ready to do everything to get the elusive happiness, not allowing him to become someone else.
The situation is complicated by the fact that your man at heart can stay pain of loss. And this is - is like poking around in the unhealed wound a red-hot nail. Pulling out hair hussy will not help save the relationship. Of course, I dream about nice, but do not fall so low. In the end, everything depends on the decision of Man. But something can be done to you.
Try it hint that betrayed him once, it can do it again. After all, the young women will experience: she would think that after the violent separation can easily return. Life is your guy with it will turn into hard labor: constant suspicion, mistrust and scandals on this soil. Male vanity and fear to relive the separation can stop him from the fatal step.
Do not attempt to apply pressure and to arrange dismantling. After all, your boyfriend is still nothing decided. Perhaps he and would never make a choice in favor of the former. What if he is able to calmly deal with it by finding out the latest news about mutual friends, and talking about a new love - you. Take yourself something else to distract. You can learn Spanish, cross stitching, master strip of plastic. Seeing that you love him and trust the guy certainly prefer a normal life with a good man, but not the one that betrayed him. Who wants to step on the same rake twice?
Lucky those of us who know nothing about the former female male. They did not have to experience the painful feeling of jealousy, constant helplessness of knowing that elect loves and remembers another. As simple to build relationships, not having such a load behind him! You witness his painful experiences? Then fate has thrown you a serious test. And if you were able to overcome it and find happiness with that person - you honor and praise. Not everyone's strength to invest in a man so much love and affection to the old wounds healed. You - a real woman!