Self-confidence - this is a very important quality. It allows anyone to cope with life's many problems and challenges of society.
A great desire to get rid of all their shortcomings and complexes, to radically change itself will help to develop confidence in themselves and in their abilities.
As a rule, our fears give rise to self-doubt. With a confident person is always interesting to talk to, it seems to us strong and courageous. And what he did to become one? Just I stepped over their fears. Self-confidence and self-confidence characteristic of successful people. How to be assertive? What do you need?
Not only women but also many men often wonder how to become self-reliant? Tips and tricks for both sexes the same.
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Believe in yourself and your strength
All the time we are afraid that the people around us do not understand our actions, our words do not perceive. We are going through, what will they say about our appearance would think about our actions, etc. Before we deal with the cause of self-doubt, it should be clearly defined.
Notorious man can not be sure. Do not look for flaws in himself. Big nose, thin lips, big ears, small or tall, full - all this leads to the fact that we scored in the corner, afraid that the public will judge us. This is perhaps the biggest mistake.
It is worth remembering that all people are not perfect, each has its drawbacks. Just someone knows how to hide them carefully, as someone they are invisible. Make it allows them invisible belief in themselves, their capabilities. There are cases when a person looks unattractive is the soul of the company, authority and universal favorite. How does he do it? It plays an important role self-esteem of man. Raise your self-esteem quite difficult. What you need to do?
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We raise self-esteem
The first thing to do - is to cease to compare yourself with other people. you - personality, do not need to be leveled at the other, in any situation, try to be yourself. There will always be those people who have something turns out better than you do, but something would have been worse. We must remember that there are no perfect people. By his blunders is much easier to treat, do not constantly berate ourselves and accused of anything. This is just a waste of time and nerves, it does not bring any positive results. So you will close more confidence.
Raise your self-esteem is real. This can be done using a variety of techniques and methods. It is necessary to pay due attention to their appearance. Try in the morning to brush up. This should be done so that during the day do not have to spend time Looking at myself in the mirror, because even this may be an indicator of your self-doubt.
A very important role is played by the people who surround you. Try to surround yourself with only people that have a positive energy and cause you have positive emotions. Those who suppress you and your ideas, negates all your thoughts and wishes for a better opportunity to eliminate from their environment. With such people are unlikely to succeed and become a confident person to achieve some success. Only the support of others to help you improve self-esteem, gain confidence.
Try to always respond to requests from the people around you. If they need your help, you mean something to them. Doing something that you yourself believe in themselves, you feel needed and useful. Responsiveness and goodwill required to bear fruit.
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Never be afraid to make mistakes
Not only dislike for yourself can be the cause of your uncertainty. The constant criticism of others is just an indication that you are very notorious man. Constant seeking out weaknesses in other people can only be the cause of your fear. Try to see only the good in others, show their kindness and attention to the people around you, thus you will not only cause the trust and sympathy from the outside, but also love yourself.
Never be afraid to make mistakes. Often there are people who are afraid to do anything. The reason for this is the fear that something can go wrong. And perhaps you would have succeeded in this, and if it dared to try. Remember that every experience - positive or negative - is priceless. Very often we just need to remove the life lessons that later never to step on the same rake. No wonder they say: "Nothing ventured, nothing gained." This phrase carries a lot of sense. Just try it, we can draw conclusions.
It is very important on the way to gain confidence is a self-improvement. You should never rest on our laurels, always try to develop all their best side. If possible, doing things you love, do what you like, and brings pleasure. Never leave your talents ignored. All the talent necessary to develop in themselves. For example, the ability to sing, dance, paint, cook, write - everything that should not go unnoticed. This will help you get up in their own eyes, to gain confidence in their abilities.
You should never give up on their words. Be confident in his statements and Be able to substantiate them. Never let avoid situations in which you have to defend his spoken words, be able to defend his position and his opinion. But do not rush to extremes. Not everyone can admit their mistakes. If you learn to do this, be sure to invoke sympathy for other people.
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A few more tips
Always put realistic goals that you are able to achieve. Let's say you set a goal to lose weight. Go to it and achieve it, come what may. They wanted to climb the service - go for it. Do not forget to praise yourself for achievements. Achieving all the goals, you will feel efficient and successful man. Never scold or blame themselves for failure. Unable to reach the goal? Lower the bar just below and to pursue it.
Try not to use alcohol as a means of emancipation and eliminate shyness. Courage and self-confidence after the adoption of a portion of alcohol is merely an indication that you can perfectly cope without him.
The main thing - to be sincere person. Never be afraid to express their emotions. If you feel sad - do not force yourself to smile if you are having fun - and rejoice in all kind of shows it. Sincere emotions will help you believe in yourself. Always talking about liking a man, if you like. Your honesty will attract not only people, but also arrange them.
Have high standards. Under no circumstances do not lower them in front. Standards should not be installed for others, but first of all for himself. Always strive to do well in everything and be the best.
Only having a positive outlook on the situation, you will be able to achieve success in self-improvement and positive results. Negative thoughts can destroy a person inside, but positive thoughts attract good things.
Always believe in their cause. Faith is not only able to give confidence, but can easily push for decisive action to succeed.
Stop making excuses and kept apologizing. The constant feeling of guilt only leaves its mark on your state of mind, it only reinforces the lack of confidence. This does not mean that you should never admit their mistakes. But we need to do it properly, otherwise people will start to treat you leniently, with time will doubt your abilities.
It is impossible to become a confident person, if you love yourself is not peculiar. Try to accept yourself for who you are, love yourself and all its drawbacks. I never try to imitate others, to copy them manners. Remember that you are - personality. There is no more. Appreciate yourself and never attached great importance to the criticism of others. This does not mean that it is worth a deaf ear to all that utter others. Sometimes it is possible to listen to something, but that does not mean you have to blame yourself and blame all sins.
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How to be more confident?
So, to sum up the results. Confidence means freedom of action, willingness to take risks and the desire to win, the ability to defend themselves and their positions, points of view. How to find that confidence?
Listen to your body, allowing him to move as it so desires. Self-doubt, many linked to appearances. The clumsy gait, inability to move - it can give rise to complex. Get rid of them, work on them and perfection.
Do not advertise their fears. Take up any business. The main thing - know that all you get. It is this attitude will help you resolve any issue.
Love yourself, trust yourself and know yourself. Find the advantages, remember the successes do not pay much attention to misses (they happen at all).
Keep an active lifestyle, play sports, do a variety of leisure. No wonder they say: "In a healthy body - healthy mind". Doing exercise, you will feel yourself start to like.
Do not leave without attention to their appearance. The correct wardrobe, neat and clean clothes can attract the attention of others. Yes, and you yourself will feel much more confident.
Pay attention to your intonation and diction. To do this, you can practice at home in front of a mirror, saying it out loud. A man with clear speech can not fail to attract attention. Always much more interesting to listen to someone who knows what he says.
Plenty read, replenish your vocabulary. Much more interesting to chat with smart and well-read people. In giving advice to another person and knowing that you are listening, you do love yourself and feel useful to society.
Love yourself, know their value and work on yourself, and then you certainly will gain confidence, become successful and influential man. Be prepared for all situations in life, never lose their individuality.
Harmony within ourselves. Always believe in our strength and go forward, and the other is sure to appreciate.
Good luck and success in cultivation!