Unrequited love ... To some, these words seem a bit old-fashioned. Can visualize scenes from the 18th century: the misty swamps, poor young maidens in crinolines, sad poems about unrequited love. In fact, these words just seem out of date, because now a huge number of people suffer from the fact that someone is not able to share their feelings. Even Shakespeare said that love - this is the most beautiful dream and worst nightmare. It seems that since ancient times, little has changed.
Most of us have experienced torments of unrequited love at some stage of their lives. What to do, that's life - sometimes men are not able to respond to our feelings. While this does not mean that some of us are not worthy to be loved. Of course, in the knowledge that "the best guy in the world" does not pay attention to you, self-esteem plummeted. It seems that all the fault of our shortcomings - both external and internal. But believe me, even the most beautiful, intelligent, rich and famous ladies can be in this situation. Apparently, Cupid shot arrows, better than we know, these two are suitable to be together.
But the trouble is that not every one of us the same applies to the object of his passion. Someone after painful reflection and experience ready to release the person, and did not respond to passionate feelings. Such people do not lose hope for the future of personal happiness, in spite of all the bitterness of unrequited love. And someone calls into question the very meaning of existence without a loved one close. They fall into a deep depression, I do not see anything around that can alleviate the pain unbearable. This state is the most dangerous: too often young girls, can not cope with the load of heavy feelings, do not want to live on and resolved on suicide.
How do you know that you are at risk and what to do if a loved one without life is not sweet? Everything in order.
Does your love of fanatical
Love - it's such a great feeling when you want to sing and laugh, fly on the wings of happiness. But sometimes it turns human life into a living hell. And it concerns not only of the girl in love, but the object of her adoration. If a woman is so fanatically given to the feelings that it is ready to do anything to win the heart of her lover, then it threatens disaster: it loses its sense of reality and sees the world in a distorted light. For her, there is only him, everything else in this life no longer matters. And, as a rule, such feelings are rarely reciprocal - both men are afraid to fire those who do not leave their right to choose. So, how to understand what is your attitude to the man beyond a reasonable perdely?
If, despite the fact that the young man does not want to be next to you, you feel it as their own, then it is a bad sign. Love can not be, and consider Man almost her husband at the time, as he had to meet with you does not want to - so make a big mistake.
When a girl is ready to do any act in order to get the guy to fall in love, it is not the best way affects her attitude as a loved one, and to the surrounding people. Intrigue, betrayal, intrigue - anything to remove out of the way of potential rivals and force a man to be beside her. Unfortunately, even having achieved the object of his adoration, these girls are seldom really happy, because their life purpose is not converted to "live happily ever after," and in the conquest of those who do not respond to feelings.
Sometimes girls just deify man, subordinating all their own thoughts and feelings only to him - such a wonderful and unique person. Seeing no reciprocity, they lose interest in life, no longer to meet with friends, throw study and work. What used to bring joy, becomes meaningless and uninteresting, all life becomes an endless suffering and loneliness. They make for yourself an idol worshiped guy like idol, renouncing his own "I" in the name of a loved one.
Unrequited love for these girls - excessive burden. Like, or I will be with him, or I will not live at all. If such a thought even once visited your head, immediately take your life into your own hands and stop torturing yourself. You - this is a great piece of the universe, which is sure to find your personal happiness. Do not let this young man, albeit a little later, but be sure to find!
How to survive the bitterness of unrequited love
The saying that time heals - not just empty words. Many generations of people have tested this idea on himself, he realized that even the most terrible emotional wound heals with time. As much as you may seem that despair and sorrow of unrequited feelings are endless when a storm in the soul dies down and you will see the world in a different light. You just need to survive the crisis and allow yourself to live happily on.
Fanatically your love or not, but one thing is for sure: you now haunted riot of hormones in the blood. Whatever you idealize nature of his feelings, but science has long defined the first phase of love. That feeling of lightness, joy and heavenly happiness, which gives a person the love associated with certain chemical processes in the body. Blasphemous? But true. We love human blood "play" include the following materials:
Dopamine. It gives a false sense of well-being, lets forget about all the problems and see the only joy to be with your loved one.
Serotonin - a hormone happiness and pleasure, the amount of which increases with the thought of the object of desire.
Phenylethylamine. Because of this hormone in humans increases the level of excitement, disrupt the logic centers of consciousness. It is because of this substance acts passionate people seem irrational and strange.
Norepinephrine gives a feeling of love "wings behind the back", they feel an extraordinary emotional lift and confidence.
How happy is the man under the influence of this "chemical cocktail" with mutual love, just as depressed and unhappy if all reactions of the body were not in demand. Happy one: too long with all this chemistry is not valid. Typically, after 10-13 months (and sometimes before) the person calms down and goes in a completely different state - there comes a time knowing that a loved one is far from ideal.
You can wait patiently when the time will pass and your soul may rest from torment and suffering, and can try to change the situation on their own. What makes you think that your favorite guy - just a treasure? Surely he so full of serious flaws that are easily visible to everyone around. Everyone except you. Try to make a list of his flaws, if it does not - ask for help of mutual friends and acquaintances. Once you understand that man is not perfect, you will be much easier to cope with their feelings.
But what if, despite all the shortcomings lover, you can not cope with them? Then try to move away from someone you love. Avoid meetings with the young man remove his name from the contacts in the phone and from the lists in social networks. The less you communicate with him, the easier it will be to survive the condition.
Find something for everyone, it will help you escape from the sad thoughts. That the man of your dreams, for whatever reason, can not respond to your feelings - a good excuse for self-improvement. You can become a slimmer, more beautiful, learn to sew, drive a car or learn a foreign language. Anything, just to occupy my thoughts with something that is not connected with your loved one. Self-help you to draw the attention of a guy on you, and if it fails, you lose all the same will not be left: you will have new interests, another circle of acquaintances. All this will help to overcome the painful feelings and go to the level when the person on the new estimates themselves and others.
Unrequited love - heavy, oppressive feeling, but it is possible to find a few advantages. Firstly, any strong emotions help us better understand ourselves and learn to appreciate the relationship. Secondly, very often crossed lovers find inspiration in their feelings and begin to do: write books, write poems, paint and the like.
Sometimes it is unrequited love helping people create beautiful works of art that delight and amaze others. So if you find yourself in a situation where the loved one can not respond to your feelings, try to go through this experience with dignity. Someday you will meet someone who will love you for real, just need to not lose faith in themselves and hope for the best.
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